Speed dating in Amsterdam: how it works and what to watch for

How a speed dating evening in Amsterdam works

Speed dating in Amsterdam is a short, structured way to speak to many people without endless chatting. You talk to someone for a few minutes, a bell or a host moves you on to the next table, and at the end of the evening you note who you would like to see again. What happens after that is up to you and the people you ticked.

From rounds to matches

A classic evening has ten to twenty rounds of five to seven minutes. After each round you mark on a card or in an app whether you want to stay in touch. The organiser compares the lists afterwards and only passes on contact details when the interest is mutual. That last part is what makes the format relaxed: nobody has to reject anybody to their face.

What a good host does

The host explains the rules before the first round, keeps an eye on the clock and makes sure nobody is left sitting alone at the bar. A good host also breaks the ice in the first minutes, which matters more than people think: once the first conversation has happened, the rest of the evening follows by itself. If an evening has no visible host, that says enough about the organisation.

The formats you see in Amsterdam

Three formats work in practice. Classic speed dating with tables and a bell gives you many first impressions in a short time. Group introductions with changing pairs give longer conversations of ten to fifteen minutes with more depth. And the event format, a dinner or party for singles where short conversations happen naturally, gives atmosphere and several clicks per evening instead of one formal rotation.

What you take home differs per format. The classic table rounds give you a list of faces to follow up on. The group format gives you fewer contacts but a better sense of how someone talks and listens. The dinner or party edition gives you the evening itself, including the people you never formally matched with but stood next to at the bar.

What speed dating in Amsterdam costs

Prices vary strongly per organiser and per format, so always check what a ticket includes: drinks, dinner, the number of matches and whether there is hosting. A dinner edition includes food, a classic table evening usually does not. For comparison: a loose ticket for our own Adam & Eve evenings starts at 17,50 euro according to the site, next to a monthly membership and a season ticket for five events, so an organised evening for singles does not have to cost a fortune.

How to keep a short conversation good

Ask one question that cannot be answered with yes or no, listen to the answer, and respond to what you heard instead of moving to your next prepared line. Then share something about yourself. Anyone who shares something personal twice almost always gets something personal back, and that is worth more in five minutes than a perfect list of questions.

"Seven minutes is long enough to notice you like someone, and too short to lose yourself in a story." - Menka Worae, founder Adam & Eve

Where you actually run into singles in Amsterdam

The organised evening is the fastest route, but the city does the rest. Start with the neighbourhood: at the Noordermarkt in the Jordaan you stand beside the same people as on the terrace, and in De Pijp coffee bars such as Scandinavian Embassy and Coffee & Coconuts work as places where you simply sit down next to someone. In the centre, the Rijksmuseum, Moco Museum and Internationaal Theater Amsterdam are fixed meeting points, and at Paradiso a concert puts you in conversation with the people around you.

Then the edges of the city: Westerpark, the Vondelpark and the Amstel bank where walkers and runners cross paths. On the water sit Hannekes Boom and Cafe de Ceuvel, in the Plantage Cafe de Druif, in Oud-West Cafe Brecht. Brouwerij Troost and Bar Botanique are drink spots where you join a table alone. The upcoming editions of Adam & Eve are in the calendar on adamevening.com.

Frequently asked questions about speed dating in Amsterdam

What if I do not match with anyone?

It happens, and it says nothing about your chances next time. Groups differ per evening, and one night with the wrong age mix is not a pattern. Go again with a different format and compare, because most people need two or three evenings before the first mutual match lands.

Do I have to prepare questions in advance?

One question is enough, the rest works better if you react to what the other person says. A prepared list makes a short conversation feel like an interview. Write down one opener you feel comfortable with and improvise from the answers.

Is speed dating only for people under forty?

No. Plenty of evenings in and around Amsterdam work with age bands of forty and fifty plus, often in smaller groups at a dinner venue. Ask the organiser how the age band is enforced before you book, because that determines the mix of the evening more than the format does.

What do I say in the last minute of a round?

Close warmly instead of formally. Say that you enjoyed the conversation or wish the other person luck with the remaining rounds. The last minute is what the other person remembers, and a friendly ending works even if there is no mutual match.

Can I go alone to such an evening?

Almost everyone does. A speed dating evening is built for people who come alone, which is exactly why the threshold is low. Arrive ten minutes early, so your first words are spoken before the first round starts.

Adam & Eve singles events

Adam & Eve runs singles events in Amsterdam, where we host editions most often, and elsewhere in the Netherlands: from a drink to a dinner and from a beach edition to a gallery night. Upcoming editions are in the calendar.

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